I agree but it’s complicated for example my ex was super respectful but when she found a ugly celebrity or something attractive it pissed me off then she would say she doesn’t see the appeal in legit chads Ik it sounds borderline gay but theres always something to complain about eg realising she’s into ugly guys = realising u might be chopped or just dealing with a straight up hoethat’s a very valid point i just think there’s different extents. being in a relationship does not necessarily mean you suddenly find everyone else unattractive.